Why am I so tired? I am doing far less than I was before this stupid pandemic started? Why in the world am I so exhausted?
Do those statements sound familiar?
I know that as the weeks in our #healthyathome have ticked by I, and many of you, have found our exhaustion level to be higher than ever. Today, I thought I would take some time to explain the why behind our exhaustion in light of our current situation.
First of all, we have been asked to transition our ENTIRE lives in the span of a day or two. We all used to have responsibilities in our day that took us out of our home. Now many of us work from home, shop from home, teach our children from home. We have non-existent social lives.
There are exceptions, of course, with our front line workers who haven’t had the option to be at home during this time. I salute you all as you have had to figure out how to manage all those little people at home and still go and face this big, bad nasty pandemic face to face. These MAJOR transitions in our life were made without our input and, I don’t know about you guys but usually, I like being in the driver’s seat for life decisions.
Secondly, I want to direct you to the handy pyramid below. Many people have heard of Maslow’s Hierarchy of Needs as it is often taught in basic psychology courses.
If you haven’t, allow me to give you the basic run down...
The pyramid breaks down what we need to be successful humans. The needs lowest on the triangle are considered the most vital for basic survival and each level builds on the other. The lowest level of the triangle is physiological needs – those would be our water, air, food shelter, etc. The second level is our safety needs – that includes our security, employment, resources, health, etc.
During this time our two lowest levels of need are in serious jeopardy! Perhaps you have lost your job right now and unemployment hasn’t kicked in yet. Your bottom two levels have been seriously impacted.
Perhaps you are a person in an at-risk health category so your concerns for your personal safety are warranted.
Disruptions to the supply chain along with overwhelming demand have made “essential” items more difficult to get – particularly items we need in order to prevent infection (ahem..hand sanitizer, Lysol wipes, and bleach on anyone else’s ongoing grocery lists).
We are tired because we are trying to ensure that our most basic needs are being met. For many of us those basic needs haven’t been an issue for us in a LONG time or even EVER.
That is a reason to be exhausted.
Finally, let’s have a serious conversation about anxiety. All of these threats to our basic needs, along with the challenge of trying to adapt and adjust can lead the most well-adjusted person to have some amount of anxiety. We are nervous that even being near our loved ones will put them in jeopardy. We are trying to make decisions when we don’t have all the information to make informed decisions.
So, when you feel tired find a way to rest. Be intentional in your rest. Take time to reset and refocus. Take time to be grateful and seek intentional ways to add in gratitude and positivity because it isn’t always easy to see the light and bright things right now. Most importantly, extend yourself grace and know that this will pass but grace will make the journey a bit easier.